Where is the respect???

Now, let me set the scene.....today at the O Club....my kids were really good for lunch (amazing) and we go to prepare to check out at the register.....a group that had been dining in a private room decides to leave all at the same time.....each paying individually (there were at least 30 of them).....you can see everyone else's faces as we all are getting ready to depart so I trek over and get in line behind all of them. I am there sans husband and let me say this : I realize it's your O Club and it's intended for guys but MANY families and women dine there everyday....so anyway....my kids are getting antsy...restless and ready to go....hearing them fuss, seeing them getting antsy and me getting frustrated.....NOT ONE of these officers offered to allow me to go ahead with my ticket. Now, the waitress seeing this said oh honey I will do your ticket in the back......she did and got a big tip for helping me out and one of these "officers" had the audacity to comment on me getting out of there ahead of his group. SERIOUSLY!!!!!!??????? Are you kidding me? And on the way out a group of about 10 officers wer estanding around waiting to get into the newly vacated private room and not one single one of them offered to help me by opening these ridiculously heavy double doors (finally one guy did while the others watched on as I tried to go backwards with two kids in a double stroller through those doors so thank you sir)....instead choosing to gape at me like I am an idiot for deciding to ever leave my house with the two kids.
Now here's where I go off. I can remember a time not so long ago (within the nearly ten years my husband has served as an OFFICER) when women were respected especially within a military community and still addressed as mam and so on. I know I am from the south but give me a break. It's like waiting in the immunizations line at the Naval Hospital with two screaming kids or a screaming baby and not one of these guys will give up their seat or their spot to let you go ahead but instead just sit and glare at you as if you have three heads and you somehow deserve to stand there and wait an hour and a half while they chat about going to subway for lunch (although in this scenario it's military wide personnel) I have always respected and loved military traditions and the pomp and circumstance. I am a true patriot to the core and believe in the missions , sacrifice and so on of these men and women but where has the respect gone?? Do they not teach these things in OCS or basic training anymore..or is it the failure of the entire country to educate our children on common courtesy. Another scenario that burns me up is to go in to McDonald's or anywhere for that matter on base and hear nasty profane language in front of my kids .....it didn't used to be this way....it's disheartening. I don't need to be coddled and anyone who knows me knows I am not like that--too independent if you ask my parents and husband.......BUT it would be nice to have someone help you b/c it's the nice thing to do. Again, I know I amsouthern , in WA state which isn't the most hospitable place on earth but I am just fuming at the lack of courtesy especially by our military......then I start thinking maybe some of them have been in WA too long or other places where they are constantly berated for participating in a war--when you feel no appreciation, no respect you are less likely to give it. Maybe that is the problem! This little rant barely touches on all the things I could say about this but my kids are waking up so I better cut it off now with saying that I have met plenty of officers and enlisted personnel who do treat people with respect and I am proud to say that I am married to one of those guys.....you never know what kind of day someone is having --maybe the lady chasing her kid around or struggling with a stroller is the one whose husband has been gone for a while and she is at her wit's end that day and you make the day simply by showing her an act of kindness. We should treat each other like that regardless......and you gotta pay it forward....show other people how to do it!